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 Bitch
and proud of it!
Someone
just muttered "bitch!" in your direction? Hold your head up high
and strut your stuff; you've just been paid a compliment!
----------------------------------------------------------------------- By
Tanny Chia
[eastciti.com,
January 4, 2001]
>>What
makes a good bitch?
>> Quiz: What are you: A good
bitch, a bad bitch, or a doormat?
I
admit it; I'm a bitch. Or at least I'd like to think I am.
Am
I crazy? Hell, no! Just that being a bitch takes oodles of self-confidence
and guts, and is one of the greatest compliments anyone can give
to a millennium woman.
But
does that mean you get the green light to gleefully spit the 5-letter
word in my face every time I saunter by? No, not unless you precede
it with another word: good.
'Cos
if there's one thing I've learnt from my observations of forceful
women in my social circle, it is this: there are bitches, and there
ARE bitches.
Bad
ones are the spiteful backstabbers you always thought a bitch was
all about.
Sure,
they are assertive and demanding, and they get what they want. But
they also lack one thing - real guts, and are just really mean people.
Good
bitches on the other hand are all of the above, but they are also
gutsy enough to tell you what they think of you right to your face.
Plus, they are really nice people deep down inside.
Think
I'm spouting nonsense?
Case
in point: the workplace. There's no more fertile breeding ground
for bitches both good and bad than here, where competition often
boils over in the mad scramble for glory.
And
when the ambitious easily steps over the insipid, it is all too
easy to lump the good aggressors with the bad.
But
picture this scenario. You are committed to your job and hell-bent
on doing your job well. A vapid teammate consistently sabotages
your efforts by not doing her share.
Do
you 1) tell her you're sick of covering up her sloppy work and insist
that she perform her part, otherwise you'll be forced to explain
to your superior, or 2) go straight to your boss and whine about
what an inept worker she is?
No
prizes for guessing which path the good bitch will take.
Have
I always been a bitch? No! While some bitches are born, my 'talent'
unfortunately was bred the hard way.
As
recent as 6 years ago, I was everybody's idea of Little Miss Nice.
If someone had asked me a favour that required me to go to uncomfortable
lengths to perform it, I would have replied an immediate 'yes'.
And
when a spiteful classmate laughed over my (then) non-existent chest,
I merely ignored her comment without so much as a rebuttal at her
already big fat ass.
I
could have continued with being complacent, and ended up a spineless
gutless pushover. But like all obliging people, I found that the
nicer I was, the more people stepped all over me.
And
I realised that trying to be nice when I secretly didn't want to
was not being very nice at all.
I
put a foot down on my doormat days and said 'hello' to bitchhood.
The natural-born bitches around me were naturally quite pleased
to impart their skills.
From
the girlfriend who does not hesitate to take back all loose change,
slowly picking up one coin at a time, while the waitress hovers
close by in a vain bid for undeserved tips, I learnt that no one
can pressure us into doing something we didn't want to.
From
the hard-working ex-colleague who had been unfairly passed over
for a raise, but who walked straight into the boss's room and got
one, I learnt the importance of standing up for my rights.
Nowadays,
I take it upon myself to tell off rude people who have the cheek
to cut into my queue and do not hesitate to shush up inconsiderate
patrons who give loud running commentaries with a movie.
More
recently, I felt extremely glad for having stood up for a timid
Bangladeshi passenger who had been completely ignored by a discriminating
air stewardess (bad bitch!) during mealtime.
It
took me a while, but I believe I've well and truly arrived.
The
next time someone calls you a bitch, you now know what to do. Smile
sweetly at her and say "Thanks!"
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